What cannot be communicated to the mother cannot be communicated to the self.

Psychologists
John Bowlby
British psychiatrist (1907-1990) who built attachment theory by bridging psychoanalysis and ethology. His 1951 WHO report and the Attachment and Loss trilogy (1969-80) reshaped hospital, daycare and child-welfare policy.
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The infant and young child should experience a warm, intimate, and continuous relationship with his mother (or permanent mother substitute) in which both find satisfaction and enjoyment.
All of us, from cradle to grave, are happiest when life is organized as a series of excursions, long or short, from the secure base provided by our attachment figures.
Attachment behaviour is held to characterize human beings from the cradle to the grave.
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